Set the timer for 15 minutes at first, and let your child know that if they work as hard as they can for that 15 minutes, they get to take a 5-minute break when it’s done.
Then repeat that process, slowly increasing the working time up to 25 minutes. First, set the expectation: they need to record there assignments somewhere.
Research shows that when a task seems too large or difficult for kids (and students of any age), they often procrastinate more.
So in this situation, a timer is a surprising effective solution.
” Then, instead of fully leaving it to them to work it out, open up a dialogue and try to let them come up with the steps. As they get the hang of it, you can help less and less over time.
But don’t be afraid to help the process along when they’re young. I recently spoke to one mom who called our office in Fairfax looking for a tutor. She was making it a regular practice to tap into her freshman son’s school portal each day and print out his assignments so they would be ready for him when he came home from school. They’ll never have the opportunity to develop the skills they’ll need to do that if you don’t set the stage for them to do these things on their own.Now, keep in mind that this may not apply to elementary students, who are going to need more parental help planning out long term assignments until their executive functioning skills are developed enough to plan weeks ahead.When it comes down to it, our problem as parents is this: It’s incredibly tempting to check online or in your kid’s backpack to see what’s due…or to jump in to help with homework at the first sign of struggle, especially if our children aren’t forthcoming about their workload or issues they’re having in class.And on top of that, when our students struggle with motivation, it’s common for them to do the bare minimum or avoid homework altogether. We end up enabling our children by constantly checking to see what homework is due, and helping them get it done on time, even though this task should be their job.Whether that’s on their first algebra assignment, a year-long science project they don’t know how to start, or a lingering book report where the due date has come and gone…Sometimes it’s hard to know when to step in and how to direct them without helping too much.They’re already at the table, away from distractions, so start by tacking on 15-20 minutes either before or after dinner to review upcoming assignments for the week.You can ask And then have them outline the steps they need to take.And long-term assignments that may span an entire month or quarter exacerbate this tendency.Because these projects are so large though, simply jumping into work generally makes the issue worse rather than better.