It may ease the pressure a bit if we, as writers, admit that such concerns are actually a part of the story we are writing, rather than something to deal with on our own, in guilty secrecy.
In fact, sometimes, when written into the story, our dilemmas can become interesting part of the work, deepening it greatly.
Showing your personal essay to a novelist would be like asking a news reporter for advice on a poem.
Finally, I think it’s important to be vigilant about how emotionally honest you are prepared to be in your creative non-fiction project.
For example, my memoir ‘The Dangerous Bride’, was set during a troubled time in my life when my marriage was unravelling.
To fit the narrative’s drama I underplayed the more organised aspects of myself and emphasised my confusions and inconsistencies.
Lee Kofman is an author of four books, including the memoir ‘The Dangerous Bride’ (Melbourne University Press), and co-editor of ‘Rebellious Daughters’ (Ventura Press), an anthology of memoir by prominent Australian writers.
Her short works have been widely published in Australia, UK, Scotland, Israel, Canada and US, including in ‘Best Australian Stories’ and ‘Best Australian Essays’.
Her blog was a finalist for Best Australian Blogs 2014.
Creative nonfiction typically derives its meaning from the two words: creative meaning the craft of writing and nonfiction meaning facts or that which is real and true.